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10 Ways to Get Your Kids to Talk to YouBy Mark Brandenburg MA, CPCC
1. Don't try so hard to get them to talkThe harder you try to get them to talk, the more they'll resist you. When you relax the pressure a bit, they’ll sense it, and be more ready to talk.
2. Slow down your own life and be available
3. Engage in a physical activity that they enjoySome kids are more comfortable when they’re moving. Shooting baskets, playing soccer, or a game of catch may have your child chattering away. Moving the body can serve to move the mouth as well!
4. Be as non-judgmental as possibleIf your kids feel they won't be judged when they talk to you, they'll have no reason to hold back. Have a sense of curiosity and wonder about what they’re saying, and limit the lectures about what’s right or wrong.
5. Use open-ended questions
6. Use the car as a place for conversationYou've got them and they can't get out! Don't allow video games or music to interfere with your opportunity to talk with them.
7. Reflect back what you hear from themIt's still the best way for your kids to feel heard, and the best way to encourage them to expand on the subject.
8. Talk to them while they're coloring, painting, or drawingUsing these activities to allow your kids to express themselves can help them communicate to you as well. And joining in on the activity yourself can produce an even greater sense of connection and sharing.
9. Provide opportunities for fun and excitementWhen your kids are doing something they love to do, they'll want to share it with you. Provide these for your kids, and listen to them talk about it afterward!
10. Be a parent, but be a friend as wellWhile you must be a parent first, being a friend to your kids will help them to want to share with you. Don't overdo the strict parental stuff.
Mark Brandenburg MA, CPCC, coaches busy parents by phone to balance their life and improve their family relationships. For a FREE twenty minute sample session by phone; ebooks, courses, articles, and a FREE newsletter, go to http://www.markbrandenburg.com. or email him at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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